See if the places you find have guest safety policies and if they're in key with your boundaries. Most big cities have get-togethers and clubs that cater to multiple price points and sexualities, and plenty host special events or parties for first timers.Īs a first step, try searching online for “swinger" or “adult” parties and clubs and your city’s name-plus "LGBTQ," if that's you-to see what's out there. Maybe you've wanted to hit up a sex party for a while, but you aren't sure where to go. Things to Think About Before You Go to a Sex Party
Here’s how to respectfully and safely make your sex party debut with fewer nerves and more excitement.
Whether you're planning to team up with a partner or explore on your own, you deserve great sex, and parties are specifically intended to help their attendees out with that. Parties are also especially great for anxious people because at any one worth attending, consent is paramount-and often mandatory. It’s a misconception that all attendees are required to have sex plenty people go as voyeurs, or out of curiosity, or show up fully intending to get it on only to change their minds when they show up. Parties can help you to meet like-minded people who are into the kinks and fetishes you are and who may be willing to explore them with you-or who can make you feel less skittish about sex more generally, since everyone's there for similar (horny) reasons. The idea of going to any kind of sex party might seem intense to newcomers, they're often perfect places for the shy-but-curious to expand their sexual horizons. Sex parties (often referred to as “play parties” in BDSM circles) vary widely, but is generally understood to mean a private or semi-public event where guests are allowed to engage in sexual activity with one another, often in full view of other guests. Super-elaborate sex parties do exist-as do super chill, casual ones.
You're not necessarily wrong, but there are plenty of sex parties where you'd fit right in.